5โƒฃ ๐Ÿ†‚๐Ÿ†ƒ๐Ÿ…ด๐Ÿ…ฟ๐Ÿ†‚ ๐Ÿ†ƒ๐Ÿ…พ ๐Ÿ…ฑ๐Ÿ…ด ๐Ÿ…ผ๐Ÿ…พ๐Ÿ†๐Ÿ…ด ๐Ÿ…ท๐Ÿ…พ๐Ÿ…ฝ๐Ÿ…ด๐Ÿ†‚๐Ÿ†ƒ ๐Ÿ††๐Ÿ…ธ๐Ÿ†ƒ๐Ÿ…ท ๐Ÿ†ˆ๐Ÿ…พ๐Ÿ†„๐Ÿ†๐Ÿ†‚๐Ÿ…ด๐Ÿ…ป๐Ÿ…ต

Justin Donne
3 min readNov 9, 2019

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If you are serious about improving yourself as a person, if youโ€™re serious about developing yourself, then honesty is an important part of the journey. Honesty is a key aspect of developing because if you arenโ€™t being honest with yourself, how on earth do you plan to grow? When we choose dishonesty and delusion we are choosing to see only what we want to. That might not sound so bad, but it means that you are ignoring a whole lot that you would prefer to avoid. Itโ€™s those things that matter the most. Youโ€™re securing short-term joy in exchange for long-term happiness.

  1. ๐—”๐—ฐ๐—ธ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜„๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—•๐—ฎ๐—ฑ & ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—š๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ฑ

The thing we are guiltiest of is embracing all of the good things about life, while completely ignoring the bad. Itโ€™s a bit like social media. We watch these timelines of pure joy and bliss. That isnโ€™t real. People only share the best bits, itโ€™s a slideshow of someoneโ€™s life and doesnโ€™t paint a true picture of the hardships they might face. We do this, too, whether itโ€™s on social media or in our own heads. Itโ€™s just easier to ignore the bad things rather than deal with them head-on. Ignoring problems wonโ€™t solve anything, if anything, it will make things worse for you in the long-run. Be honest with yourself about everything good and bad in your life, that balanced view will keep you sane.

2. ๐“๐š๐ค๐ž ๐“๐ข๐ฆ๐ž ๐…๐จ๐ซ ๐’๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ-๐‘๐ž๐Ÿ๐ฅ๐ž๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง

At the end of each day, take a few minutes to think about how it went. Ask yourself how you did, if thereโ€™s anything you did well or could have done better. You can be honest without being overly critical or too judgmental. This exercise isnโ€™t about damaging your self-esteem, rather, itโ€™s about reflecting on the day in order to make tomorrow a better one. Reflection helps you learn about yourself and it can improve your ability to solve problems, too. When you allow yourself the opportunity to analyze the day, youโ€™re going to get a better picture of what it takes to improve.

3. ๐–๐ž ๐€๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐Œ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐Œ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ค๐ž๐ฌ โ€“ ๐€๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ ๐ˆ๐ญ

Every one of us so, why canโ€™t you just admit it? It is one of the most difficult aspects of being honest with yourself. Itโ€™s easy to slip into ego protection mode and fine an excuse or someone else to blame for a mistake. Thatโ€™s not going to help you build a real sense of self-esteem, though. True self-esteem, true confidence lies in being courageous enough to own up to mistakes. When you can stand up and own shortcomings you can learn and grow.

4. ๐—š๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐—œ๐—ป๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—™๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€

When people say theyโ€™re caught up in their feelings itโ€™s usually used in a negative connotation. Yet, your emotions have an important role to play in how you understand and interact with the world. Emotions arenโ€™t the reality, but they are revealing. When you dig deep to figure out why you feel a certain way, youโ€™re learning about the things that tend to make you feel that way. More importantly, youโ€™re learning how to manage and respond appropriately. This is a level of honesty that your stress levels (and social circle) will appreciate.

5. ๐——๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—š๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐—–๐—ฎ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต๐˜ ๐—œ๐—ป ๐—”๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜†๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฃ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜†๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜€

As we noted above, itโ€™s important to take time for reflection and analyze the day. However, itโ€™s equally as important that you donโ€™t over-analyze. Itโ€™s easy to get carried away. You donโ€™t need to rationalize everything or intellectualize about it. You simply need to be matter of fact. Thereโ€™s no need to create an elaborate story about why bad things happen to you. You need only to note how it is right now and move forward. You canโ€™t understand everything thatโ€™s going on in the world, and you donโ€™t need to. You just have to be realistic, be practical and sensible.

๐˜ฝ๐™š๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ข๐™ค๐™ง๐™š ๐™๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง๐™จ๐™š๐™ก๐™› ๐™ข๐™ž๐™œ๐™๐™ฉ ๐™—๐™š ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™›๐™ช๐™ก, ๐™—๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ž๐™ฉโ€™๐™จ ๐™– ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™˜๐™š๐™จ๐™จ๐™–๐™ง๐™ฎ ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™ง๐™ฉ ๐™ค๐™› ๐™›๐™ช๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง๐™จ๐™š๐™ก๐™›. ๐™ƒ๐™ค๐™ฌ ๐™˜๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™—๐™š ๐™ข๐™ค๐™ง๐™š ๐™๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง๐™จ๐™š๐™ก๐™›?

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Justin Donne
Justin Donne

Written by Justin Donne

Justin Donne is an experienced nonprofit organization leader, business strategist, public speaker. He loves solving problems and creating innovative solutions

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