5โฃ ๐๐๐ ด๐ ฟ๐ ๐๐ พ ๐ ฑ๐ ด ๐ ผ๐ พ๐๐ ด ๐ ท๐ พ๐ ฝ๐ ด๐๐ ๐๐ ธ๐๐ ท ๐๐ พ๐๐๐๐ ด๐ ป๐ ต
If you are serious about improving yourself as a person, if youโre serious about developing yourself, then honesty is an important part of the journey. Honesty is a key aspect of developing because if you arenโt being honest with yourself, how on earth do you plan to grow? When we choose dishonesty and delusion we are choosing to see only what we want to. That might not sound so bad, but it means that you are ignoring a whole lot that you would prefer to avoid. Itโs those things that matter the most. Youโre securing short-term joy in exchange for long-term happiness.
- ๐๐ฐ๐ธ๐ป๐ผ๐๐น๐ฒ๐ฑ๐ด๐ฒ ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ฎ๐ฑ & ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ผ๐ฑ
The thing we are guiltiest of is embracing all of the good things about life, while completely ignoring the bad. Itโs a bit like social media. We watch these timelines of pure joy and bliss. That isnโt real. People only share the best bits, itโs a slideshow of someoneโs life and doesnโt paint a true picture of the hardships they might face. We do this, too, whether itโs on social media or in our own heads. Itโs just easier to ignore the bad things rather than deal with them head-on. Ignoring problems wonโt solve anything, if anything, it will make things worse for you in the long-run. Be honest with yourself about everything good and bad in your life, that balanced view will keep you sane.
2. ๐๐๐ค๐ ๐๐ข๐ฆ๐ ๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐๐๐ฅ๐-๐๐๐๐ฅ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง
At the end of each day, take a few minutes to think about how it went. Ask yourself how you did, if thereโs anything you did well or could have done better. You can be honest without being overly critical or too judgmental. This exercise isnโt about damaging your self-esteem, rather, itโs about reflecting on the day in order to make tomorrow a better one. Reflection helps you learn about yourself and it can improve your ability to solve problems, too. When you allow yourself the opportunity to analyze the day, youโre going to get a better picture of what it takes to improve.
3. ๐๐ ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐๐๐ค๐ ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ค๐๐ฌ โ ๐๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ ๐๐ญ
Every one of us so, why canโt you just admit it? It is one of the most difficult aspects of being honest with yourself. Itโs easy to slip into ego protection mode and fine an excuse or someone else to blame for a mistake. Thatโs not going to help you build a real sense of self-esteem, though. True self-esteem, true confidence lies in being courageous enough to own up to mistakes. When you can stand up and own shortcomings you can learn and grow.
4. ๐๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ป๐๐ผ ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐
When people say theyโre caught up in their feelings itโs usually used in a negative connotation. Yet, your emotions have an important role to play in how you understand and interact with the world. Emotions arenโt the reality, but they are revealing. When you dig deep to figure out why you feel a certain way, youโre learning about the things that tend to make you feel that way. More importantly, youโre learning how to manage and respond appropriately. This is a level of honesty that your stress levels (and social circle) will appreciate.
5. ๐๐ผ๐ปโ๐ ๐๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐๐ด๐ต๐ ๐๐ป ๐๐ป๐ฎ๐น๐๐๐ถ๐ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐น๐๐๐ถ๐
As we noted above, itโs important to take time for reflection and analyze the day. However, itโs equally as important that you donโt over-analyze. Itโs easy to get carried away. You donโt need to rationalize everything or intellectualize about it. You simply need to be matter of fact. Thereโs no need to create an elaborate story about why bad things happen to you. You need only to note how it is right now and move forward. You canโt understand everything thatโs going on in the world, and you donโt need to. You just have to be realistic, be practical and sensible.